Legal In All 50 States!

11402970_1054285927922509_6435384493558207037_nToday, June 26, 2015, marriage between same-sex couples is now legal all across America! Wooooo!

The vote from the Supreme Court was 5-4 in favor of legalizing same-sex marriage and I am so excited!

Congrats America! This is amazing and now that America’s done it, more of the world is sure to follow!

You can read more about the decision on the New York Times website. Or, just go on social media right now, it’s everywhere! Everyone is celebrating this fantastic news!

Congratulations to all the couples in America who can now get married! I wish you the best!

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#FreeTheNipple

Free the NippleDid you know, “in the USA it is effectively illegal for a woman to be topless, breastfeeding included, in 35 states” (According to the Free The Nipple website). Other places such as Canada, Denmark, Poland, and Sweden toplessness is allowed while places like France, Iceland, India, New Zealand, and Taiwan have no laws against breastfeeding in public (many actually laws protecting breastfeeding mothers).

Despite all this though, there is still such a stigma about women’s nipples.

But why? Why are women’s nipples something we have to hide when they’re the exact same as men’s? The only difference is tissue which is enlarged on women due to higher levels of estrogen. So why are women forced to cover up? Why are mothers shamed for breastfeeding in public?

Free The Nipple is a film and campaign that stands against the oppression of women all around the globe. Seeking to empower women, create equality amongst the sexes, and give women everywhere the right to breastfeed if they so choose.

Many celebrities, including Miley Cyrus, Liv Tyler, and Scout Willis have taken part in the #FreetheNipple campaign and their actions sparked a widespread debate about equality and oppression.

The fact that women’s nipples are such a taboo thing is absurd to me. They’re censored on tv and in films and if a woman walks down the street without a top on she can be arrested. But for men it’s the complete opposite which is just as absurd. As I said above, the only difference between men’s nipples and women’s is tissue. But women’s are seen as being sexual when men’s aren’t.

The purpose of women’s breasts is to feed a baby. Personally, I don’t see breastfeeding as being all that sexual. Yet women are constantly told it’s disgusting and to cover up when they do it in public. Women should be able to breastfeed their children wherever and whenever they want to or need to.

I stand by the Free the Nipple campaign. This sort of censorship is unnecessary and completely out of date. It’s 2015 people, time to wake up and smell the roses. Women have nipples! I highly doubt this is a surprise to anyone (I mean, even babies know they’re there). So, I say we free the nipple and change these ancient laws to ones that are positive and allow people of any sex the freedom they deserve.

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50 Shades of Nope

Happy Valentine’s Day Everybody!

50ShadesofGreyCoverArtI hope you’re having a fun and safe holiday. A very infamous film came out yesterday and I thought today would be a good day to talk about it.

If you haven’t guessed from the title, I’m talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Now, at first, I wasn’t sure I wanted to talk about this film. I really don’t want to give it any more attention than it already has. But I also feel it’s important to talk about things that are going in the world, whether they’re good or bad.

In this case, 50 Shades falls under the category of ‘bad’. Written by E.L. James and originally posted online as Twilight fanfiction, 50 Shades of Grey quickly became the fastest selling paperback ever. It beat the record once help by Harry Potter so I don’t think it was really much of a surprise to anyone when they announced it would be turned into a film.

This should have great news. Despite it being Twilight fanfiction, this story had a chance to be great. A look in to the world of BDSM without making a joke about. Except, I don’t think E.L. James ever bothered to look up the description of BDSM.

These two came from Urban Dictionary:

” An overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM).”

” A physical, psychological and usually sexual power-role-play with consensual participants.”

Instead of showing a healthy BDSM relationship, 50 Shades depicts a poorly written story about manipulation and abuse.

‘”We’re going,” he says to me.
“Now?”
“Yes. Now.”
Oh shit, he is not to be argued with.’

‘Holy fuck what has he done to me… I look like I’ve been in some sort of accident… I’m too mad. How dare he mark me like this.’

‘”No, please. I can’t do this. Not now. I need some time. Please.”
“Oh Ana, don’t over think this.”‘

Those are actual quotes from the book. Credit for finding them goes to The Sixth Siren of Pandora. Do any of these quotes sound like a healthy relationship? No. They don’t. However, they do sound like someone in a manipulative and abuse relationship who has been hurt and is too scared to fight back.

It’s perfectly find and healthy to explore BDSM. However, make sure you know what it really is before trying it.

  • BDSM is not one person guilting the other into submission.
  • BDSM is not ignoring safe words.
  • BDSM is not deliberately scaring and hurting the other person.
  • BDSM is not done without both partner’s consent.

If you read or see 50 Shades of Grey, please remember it is not an accurate depiction of a healthy BDSM relationship. Like I said before, it’s perfectly find to try new things and spice things up a bit, but make sure it’s done in a safe and healthy way that makes all people involved happy.

You can read more about BDSM here

If you feel you’re in a manipulative and abuse relationship, please call a friend or a family member or someone to help. You don’t have to stay there.

Blind Woman Sees Her Son

Seeing your newborn baby for the first time can be a magical experience. But for one woman in Guelph, Ontario it was so much more.

Kathy Beitz, 29, has been legally blind since age 11 due to a degenerative disease that has caused large blind spots in her vision. But thanks to eSight, glasses developed by a company based in Ottawa, Beitz was able to see her newborn son, Askel, the day he was born.

The compterized glasses “uses a sophisticated high-speed camera, patented video processing software, a computer processor and the highest quality video OLED screens to project a real-time image that allow the legally blind to actually see” and currently cost $15,000.

Beitz, who was able to borrow the pair from her sister Yvonne (also legally blind) was able to see her newborn son’s tiny features and said she “got to fall in love with him.”

Personally, I can’t think of a better way to use these glasses than for times like this.

 

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Shoulders Too Sexy?

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Last Saturday was supposed to be a fun night for high school students at a school in Utah. But for one student, things didn’t go quite the way they were supposed to. Sixteen year old high school junior, Gabi Finlayson, was called out in front of everyone for not having her shoulders covered.

Finlayson had been in Paris with her mother when she bought the dress, which has two inch straps, in compliance with her high school’s dress code. In an interview with Yahoo Parenting, Finlayson spoke about how much she loved the dress, but was left “feeling shamed and embarrassed” when she was forced to wear her coat all night.

But why was her dress such a problem? It followed the school’s two inch strap rule, so why did they call her out? Are a girl’s shoulders really so sexual that she can’t show them in public?

No, they’re not. At least, not until someone makes them so. By calling Finlayson out, she was being told that she needs to cover up, that she needs to hide her body because it’s too sexual. If we are sexualizing girl’s bodies while they’re still in school, I really don’t think it’s the girls that are the problem.

For all the years I was in school girls couldn’t show their shoulders or wear shorts that went above the knee. The reason? It was too distracting and too sexual. Now, I don’t know about you, but I don’t find knees all that erotic. I’m sure there are some people out there who do and that’s fine. Whatever floats your boat. But when a ten year old can’t wear shorts to school because it’s too distracting and sexual, you need to be looking at the men who said that and not at the girl.

I would walk down the hallway and see boys with their pants hanging down and boxers out for all to see. They’d wear shirts that say ‘women belong in the kitchen’. But were they ever reprimanded? No. What this says is that it’s okay to make jokes at a woman’s expense, but if she tries to wear something comfortable in thirty degree heat then it’s not okay. Girls at my school used to get sent home for wearing a tank top, but not once did a boy get sent home for having his boxers hanging out. You know what that says? It’s more important for boys to have a comfortable work environment than for a girl to get an education. And that’s simply not true. It’s either all or nothing. If shoulders aren’t allowed to be seen, neither are boxers. If boys can have their boxers hanging out, then girls can wear tank tops.

We need to stop sexualizing girl’s bodies. Women aren’t pieces of meat, we’re human beings. When a girl wears a tank top to school, it’s because it’s hot outside and she doesn’t want to spend the next five to six hours soaked in sweat. They’re not trying to distract anyone, they’re trying to be comfortable while getting an education.

If someone says a girl’s shoulders are too sexualized and distracting, it’s them that should be spoken to, not the girl.

*Photo provided to Yahoo by Finlayson’s Mother*

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John Jolie-Pitt

John Jolie-PittI debated a lot about what I wanted to say in this post. What I wanted it to be about and how I was going to say it. Today, I’m going to talk about John Jolie-Pitt. Now, I’d just like to say that everything I’ve heard about Angelina and brad’s son comes from news stories, magazines, and the internet.

It was reported a few weeks ago that one of Brad and Angelina’s children no longer identified as female and requested to be called John, something it is said that Angelina and Brad support. Since the news broke, it is said that Brad and Angelina have been attacked by Anti-LGBT organizations for their decision to support their child.

The news that he now identifies as John received a lot of backlash. Some people said this identity had been forced on him. They said that years of being put in “boys clothes” had confused him. That growing up with older brothers would make him want to explore being a boy.

There are a few things that need to be addressed here. First, John is not confused. Whether this is a phase or not, this is who he is now and it is no one’s business except his. Only John knows who he really is. He is not confused nor is he too young to know who he is. If Brad and Angelina’s daughter, Zahara, had stepped forward and said she was a girl, she would be told she’s right. It’s been shown in various studies that children begin to explore and understand their bodies and the differences between ‘male’ and ‘female’ by the time they’re three or four.

Second, the fact that Brad and Angelina support their child is something people should be happy about. Attacking them for supporting their child is basically attacking them for being loving parents. John is very lucky to have supporting parents and Angelina and Brad are a great example of how things should be.

Third, trying to blame John’s identity on the fact that he wears “boys clothes” is, simply put, ridiculous. Why? They’re not “boys clothes”, they’re clothes. You don’t put a pair of pants and a shirt that came out of the “boys section” and automatically turn into a male. You wear clothes you like, it has nothing to do with gender, sex, sexuality, or anything.

Whatever happens in the future, I’m glad John has the support of his family and so many others now. that support will go a long way with the hate this boy will unfortunately face.

What do you think of the media attacking this family?

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