50 Shades of Nope

Happy Valentine’s Day Everybody!

50ShadesofGreyCoverArtI hope you’re having a fun and safe holiday. A very infamous film came out yesterday and I thought today would be a good day to talk about it.

If you haven’t guessed from the title, I’m talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Now, at first, I wasn’t sure I wanted to talk about this film. I really don’t want to give it any more attention than it already has. But I also feel it’s important to talk about things that are going in the world, whether they’re good or bad.

In this case, 50 Shades falls under the category of ‘bad’. Written by E.L. James and originally posted online as Twilight fanfiction, 50 Shades of Grey quickly became the fastest selling paperback ever. It beat the record once help by Harry Potter so I don’t think it was really much of a surprise to anyone when they announced it would be turned into a film.

This should have great news. Despite it being Twilight fanfiction, this story had a chance to be great. A look in to the world of BDSM without making a joke about. Except, I don’t think E.L. James ever bothered to look up the description of BDSM.

These two came from Urban Dictionary:

” An overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM).”

” A physical, psychological and usually sexual power-role-play with consensual participants.”

Instead of showing a healthy BDSM relationship, 50 Shades depicts a poorly written story about manipulation and abuse.

‘”We’re going,” he says to me.
“Now?”
“Yes. Now.”
Oh shit, he is not to be argued with.’

‘Holy fuck what has he done to me… I look like I’ve been in some sort of accident… I’m too mad. How dare he mark me like this.’

‘”No, please. I can’t do this. Not now. I need some time. Please.”
“Oh Ana, don’t over think this.”‘

Those are actual quotes from the book. Credit for finding them goes to The Sixth Siren of Pandora. Do any of these quotes sound like a healthy relationship? No. They don’t. However, they do sound like someone in a manipulative and abuse relationship who has been hurt and is too scared to fight back.

It’s perfectly find and healthy to explore BDSM. However, make sure you know what it really is before trying it.

  • BDSM is not one person guilting the other into submission.
  • BDSM is not ignoring safe words.
  • BDSM is not deliberately scaring and hurting the other person.
  • BDSM is not done without both partner’s consent.

If you read or see 50 Shades of Grey, please remember it is not an accurate depiction of a healthy BDSM relationship. Like I said before, it’s perfectly find to try new things and spice things up a bit, but make sure it’s done in a safe and healthy way that makes all people involved happy.

You can read more about BDSM here

If you feel you’re in a manipulative and abuse relationship, please call a friend or a family member or someone to help. You don’t have to stay there.

Blind Woman Sees Her Son

Seeing your newborn baby for the first time can be a magical experience. But for one woman in Guelph, Ontario it was so much more.

Kathy Beitz, 29, has been legally blind since age 11 due to a degenerative disease that has caused large blind spots in her vision. But thanks to eSight, glasses developed by a company based in Ottawa, Beitz was able to see her newborn son, Askel, the day he was born.

The compterized glasses “uses a sophisticated high-speed camera, patented video processing software, a computer processor and the highest quality video OLED screens to project a real-time image that allow the legally blind to actually see” and currently cost $15,000.

Beitz, who was able to borrow the pair from her sister Yvonne (also legally blind) was able to see her newborn son’s tiny features and said she “got to fall in love with him.”

Personally, I can’t think of a better way to use these glasses than for times like this.

 

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Broad Blog Too Broad?

blogSo I did a lot of research before starting this blog, trying to get an idea of how to run it and the kind of content to include. I can safely say that everything I found was incredibly… unhelpful. Everything I read said to find your niche and write about it. Blog about what you like. Well, I’m already doing that over on my other blog and this blog isn’t like that one.

That’s where I talk about writing and post book and film reviews. This blog isn’t one where I choose one topic and talk about it. I want this to be one where I talk about lots of stuff. I can be pretty opinionated and I have lots of stuff I care about and want to talk about. On top of that, I’m a writer, which means a blog is the perfect place to get a discussion going. This blog won’t be one thing, but many things. Some topics you may find here are:

Feminism
LGBTQ+
Shark Finning/Whaling
Films and Shows
On This Day in History…
Stuff Going on in the World
Experiences in general

Essentially, I’m going to be talking about pretty much anything. Now, a lot of things I read said starting a blog this broad would be too much. Too overwhelming. But how would I know if it’s too overwhelming without even trying? I can always talk about things and if it’s too much I can change them. But for now here it is. If you have something you would like me tot talk about leave a comment or visit my contact page!

Is there anything you want to hear about?

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